You really fall in love with your spouse...except one.... his tastes a little worried about clothes. For instance, he bought white shirts all the way because he was scared of playing with colours and motives. He is used to wear black T-Shirt with rock n roll band in the 90s picture on it, no matter whether he is watching the concert, having fine dining date, or attending the seminar.
You are so desperate to make over his looks, but you are worried he would turn down your offer, instead he insisted with his own style. On the other hand, you also worried he would be offended and trigger a fight. If you are willing to succeed with your effort, follow these tips:
Give him a positive support
e.g. give him a complimentary when he wears cloth that you like. It would lift up his ego. For example, you like when he roll up his shirt sleeve with square motives to his elbow, or let loose his shirt without put under his pants. By your complimentary, he might do it the same way again next time.
Don't make fun of him
You don't have to undermine his self-confidence because of his taste of clothing is not suit with yours, do you? If he asks your opinion about the shirt that he is willing to buy, try to be honest but say it politely. You don't have to heehaw when he asks about the turtle-neck T-Shirt or whatever it is, you think it is not appropriate.
Ask him to go shopping together
He must go shopping with you too, if you want him to look better. By shopping together, you are not only be able to say that his style is out of date, but you could also pointed what cloth is not correct or which one is not suitable in the fitting room. It is much better compared with you scold him out at home directly with his shopping bags after he finished shopping by himself. Give him ideas about the colour, the motives, the pants that is suit with his skin and his body.
Don't get rid of his old clothes
Do you remember when you were 15 years old and your mother get rid of your mini skirt that is too short for you to wear? You were probably resentful up to the current time. He has the same feeling, too as you are. Throwing his clothes without his knowledge will hurt his feeling. The opposite is just put his clothes to the bottom of the clothes pile .
Remove his threadbare clothes
Do you know his favorite t-shirt that he wore again and again until it became threadbare and holes? Try to sort them out and ask him to select his obsolete clothes to be removed. His jeans which parts in the bottom-hole-edge that is torn and dirty, or his torn shirt colar. Take aside the clothes that still can be worn and put together with the new clothes just bought. Start creating a new style for him slowly but sure.
Don't show off your hard work when he got the compliment
You are indeed meritorious to form his new style. Though, is it necessary for you to get a compliment as his stylist? You don't need to say,''I am the one who choose his shirt!'' when he got the compliment from his friends. Let him receive all the compliments for himself. He will continue with his new style exactly when he got the recognition from his surrounding.
Balance the complimentary with critics
When your spouse is looking for a pants that looks like it is too short for him. Maybe he ask you, ''is it too short for me?'' you may say, ''yeap, you are too tall, honey''. Don't nag while thinking why he asks such stupid question. It might be better if you look for his shirt that is suit with the pants he bought and say, ''you have good body, honey! so try to put on a bit tight shirt''.
(source from Kompas, Oct 29,2011)
